Finally, any toy that’s going in your butt needs to have a flared base, by which we mean: A base that is wider than any other part of the toy. This prevents it from getting lost inside you, because prostate orgasms are lovely but aren’t worth going to the emergency room over.
What is the prostate?
The prostate is a walnut-sized gland that sits between your bladder and your rectum. It plays an important role in the reproductive system, producing and expelling prostatic fluid, which is a component of semen.
Massaging your prostate has some potential health benefits, but more importantly for the purposes of this article, it can be wildly pleasurable. You can combine prostate stimulation with other stuff that works for you, like stroking your dick, receiving oral sex, or penetrating a partner. Or you can touch it all on its own, which is intense enough that some people can reach orgasm from prostate play alone. If you’re intrigued by the idea, it’s worth exploring—it could massively increase your pleasure potential!
The Best Prostate Massager, Overall: Lelo Hugo
Material: Non-porous silicone and ABS plastic
Battery Life: 2 hours
How to Use: Apply water-based lube liberally before inserting. Press the toy’s one button twice to turn it on; control it using the same button, or the included remote.
The best massager on the market, bar none. It’s expensive, but if you plan on using it more than a few times, then there’s no reason not to splurge. The incredible precision of the vibrations separates the remote-control prostate massager Hugo from the pack. To control the speed and intensity, you simply tilt the circular remote. So if you tilt down and to the right, the vibrations will be stronger on the back right side. It’s like laser-guided access to where you experience the most pleasure.
Pros: Great shape for prostate stimulation; eight adjustable settings of powerfully rumbly vibration; two motors to stimulate both prostate and perineum at once; silky-smooth silicone; can be used with or without the included remote; waterproof
Cons: May be too large for some users; can’t be used with silicone-based lubes; remote requires disposable batteries; expensive
The Best Budget Prostate Massager: Aneros Helix Trident
Material: ABS plastic
How to Use: Apply water-based lube before inserting. Squeeze your anal muscles rhythmically to feel simultaneous internal and external stimulation.
Prostate massagers are often pricey, which makes a certain amount of sense. (You don’t want to stick just anything up there.) But the Helix Trident is on the cheaper side. Unlike most other toys on the list, this one doesn’t vibrate, but it still works great, particularly if you’re a newbie to anal play and prostate stimulation—the Helix is a great starter toy. If you determine you love the sensation of something inside you, then you can upgrade to a more expensive vibrating model like the Aneros Vice 2, which packs a powerful motor into a discreet device.
Pros: Hands-free prostate stimulation; good size for beginners; also stimulates perineum; can be used with any kind of lube
Cons: No vibration; head may be too blunt for some beginners to insert comfortably
The Best Vibrating Prostate Massager: Lelo Loki Wave
Material: Silicone and ABS plastic
Battery Life: 2 hours
How to Use: Apply water-based lube liberally before inserting the larger arm. Position the smaller, external arm on your perineum. Hold down the middle button to turn the toy on or off. Use the “+” and “–” buttons to adjust the vibration intensity, and the arrow buttons to cycle through vibration modes.
If you’ve ever enjoyed the “scooping” or “come hither” motion of a partner’s fingers (or your own) on your prostate, you’d probably love this toy. In addition to vibrating, it “waves” up and down in a massaging motion, creating ultra-intense orgasms. The Loki Wave has 10 vibration patterns, and its dual motors combine prostate and perineum stimulation.
Pros: Two rumbly motors to pleasure both prostate and perineum simultaneously; up-and-down “waving” motion; waterproof; five wave settings and five vibration settings
Cons: Expensive; loud; can’t be used with silicone-based lubes; waving motion is slow; may be too large for some users
The Best Luxury Prostate Massager: Njoy Pfun
Material: Stainless steel
How to Use: Apply lube before inserting.
Feel like spoiling yourself? It’s hard to beat stainless steel in terms of pure luxury and beauty. This non-vibrating plug presses firmly against your prostate every time you squeeze your muscles around it, making it a super pleasurable addition to intercourse or oral sex. Its ergonomic design makes this a pleasure to use in more ways than one.
Pros: Pleasurable heaviness; good curve for prostate stimulation; beginner-friendly size; looped handle for easier insertion and removal; can be used with any kind of lube; good for temperature play; will last basically forever
Cons: Tends to slip out if worn long-term or while standing up
The Best Long-Distance Prostate Massager: Lovense Edge 2
Battery Life: Up to 90 minutes
How to Use: Apply water-based lube before inserting. Hold down the button on the toy for 3 seconds to turn it on or off. Control the toy’s vibrations using that same button or by connecting it to the Lovense app.
Lovense blew up during the pandemic because they are the premier long-distance sex toy company. You can connect every Lovense toy to an app and, using Bluetooth connectivity, your partner can control the device from hundreds of miles away. This hands-free fun will bring new highs to your sex life. The app-controlled Edge 2 is a fantastic prostate massager to use during FaceTime sex. The rechargeable massager has a little less than two hours of battery life, and you can create custom vibration settings for over 100,000 unique combinations, far surpassing the dozen or so vibration modes that other devices are tied down to. If you’re feeling particularly kinky and want to keep it in, your partner can surprise you with little zaps throughout the day.